le coup de foudre - The Lightning Bolt

(The odds of being hit by le coup de foudre are small, but at least it's not the only way to find true love)

We live in a world of instant gratification and that often means we end up being less satisfied.

Fast food doesn't compare to a meal that took hours to prepare.

Ready-to-wear clothes never fit as well as those that are hand tailored.

So just because a relationship takes some work on the parts of both people to  come together, it doesn't mean that it is filled with any less passion than one that sparked at a first glance.

In the long run, it may actually provide a lot more heat than a relationship that starts off quickly but then peters out just as fast as it began.

ℒℴѵℯ that detonates like an exploding star

can disappear into the cosmos just as quickly.

Love that grows slowly may never burn 

quite as brightly as a supernova,

but it may deliver more energy over the long run.

Remember:It only takes a little spark 

to start a raging forest fire.

->from the book of Dr. Westheimer --"52 Lessons on Communicating Love"

Foolish You

You fooled me once

You fooled me twice

But you can never

Fooled me thrice

It's over and done

So let it be

You can never hold me

For it was our destiny

I loved you once

I loved you twice

But I can't love you

For the third time

Now the feeling's gone

I don't owe you one

Don't make a m0ve

Cause its useless now

Deception

I felt so hopeless for a moment

Sick and reluctant in wilderness

Captured in delight of a stranger felon

Troubled and deceived by his act of kindness

One moment of silence

He was calling my name

And when I glanced

He was dead and gone

Loving From a Distance

I have loved you for so long

Yet my heart can not speak

Tongue tied and coward

Over those years

To remain silent

Was my only ch0ice

For I believe, someday

I would win your heart back

Showing no m0tive

Was a plain excuse

To keep you forever

Even if it hurts so good

I've been trying to tell you

What my heart desires

But I fall apart

Even before I start

The Reader

A movie that is beyond your imagination..Truly inspiring and challenging.."It is an excellent work of art"--a story of deeper understanding of one's self--of reasoning and a different kind of love..It is a film that awakens the need of education, literacy.  Giving us a more sensitive and provocative observation about the characters  gestures..Knowing the idea of a person's judgment based on what they have witnessed. 0nly those wh0 knew can understand what is to be underst0od..Another film that really m0ved my heart...

I've seen this film a couple of times but it definitely makes my cry. What a lovely story after all…Every time I watch this movie, I always put myself in the sh0es of the character so I can feel the emotions that was kept inside. Too much of its mixed bottled emotions makes my tears fall rapidly..

I pity her (Kate Winslet) for being an illiterate and coward but I admire her for being strong and persistent. Achieving something that she desirably wants to have is the greatest deed she have done--Learning the ABC and read on her own. Though it was too late for her to learn all those things, at least she have tried hard enough before she died.

Lesson:

Being illiterate must be understood by the crowd and share to them the knowledge that we have. We don't have to laugh at their ass but instead we have to help them to have a normal life. Literacy is also not an excuse to live a happy life. If you want to have a successful life continue to dream big and achieve that dream. Don't be a coward and be strong to surpass every challenges in your life. 

Passing by

Thought of you

Slip on my mind

Can't rec0gnize

H0w you capture mine

Undying love

Is what you ask

Forbidden

Imp0ssible task

The Irony of Love

Have you ever been swept away by someone wh0m you thought is the ONE? Maybe YES or maybe NO...Whatever your answer is, I can definitely tell that once in your life you've fallen for someone so deep yet your mind is too blind to admit..Am I right?..The probability is high 'coz we love unconditionally and follow what our heart dictates…

But the more painful part is when you love someone who doesn't love you back..Isn't it stupid? YES, it is indeed stupid. That stupidity will lead us  to a disease called  martyr-complex syndrome, loving a person even if it hurts so much. Though it's hard to get away with it, we have to. Sometimes we need to think of ourselves --our own happiness...

Falling for someone who doesn't pay you back in return is another  way of finding true love..Do you agree? I don't agree but for some it is. Others say "The more it hurts, the more you love"…Yeah it is definitely love if it affects you, torn you and kill you. But seeing the one you love, loving another woman/man is not a good reason to hold on to. We have to let go of that person and set him/her free 'coz it's the right  thing to do. It's better to reminisce that moment that sometime in your life you find the ONE but eventually you let go of him/her. At least you've given your best to love him/her even if you get less in return…What matters most is that you have loved unconditionally...

It drives me crazy when I'm in love and it kills me after the excitement was g0ne. It feels like I'm underneath the earth, helpless and empty yet after a decade I'm on a hunting game again searching for an0ther beast to tame and take me d0wn when he finds an0ther mate..Silly as it can be but that's the reality. I guess it was not love at all--It was only an INFATUATION... 

The Capture of the Green River Killer

Yesterday I can't sleep so I went downstairs and turned the TV on. Luckily, I found a nice movie to watch and the title was eye-catching. Since I love crime films, I decided to entertain myself watching it. So the film is a 2-part movie that tells the story of the notorious Green River Killer who murders young prostitutes from time to time in the late 1980's. It is based on Sheriff David Reichert's book, Chasing the Devil: My Twenty-Year Quest to Capture the Green River Killer. 

This movie revolves mostly on the two characters "Helen" Remus and Detective "Dave" Reichert. Helen is a young girl who runaway from home to escape from her mother's boyfriend and became a prostitute later on. She died on the last part and was the first victim whom the killer faced while strangling her to death. Detective Dave is a very hard-working county officer who works with the murder case for 19 years and as a leader of the team he didn't let go of the case and never bring down the victims and their family. He tried his best to capture the serial killer "Gary" Ridgway until he reach the end.

It was a not-so-good film but it caught my interest. Finding the real killer was so hard for them due to lack of evidence. Detective Dave was right that he can't simply put a man behind bars for a single lie. There must be a preponderance of the evidence to prove that their accusations were right. The ultimate mistake he did was an act of negligence. He overlooked a single clue that will lead to them to the true murderer. That's the reason why it took them 19 long years to capture the serial killer.

Obsession in sex  was the root of the killer's idea to kill young prostitutes. Since they can be bought, he can simply take away their lives and throw their bodies in the river because no one will care if they die. But his assumption was wrong, 'cause the authority cares much about the victims and they want justice for them. Gary killed 71 women..What a record-breaking kills!!!hehe:D..The killer was wise though and he really don't want to get caught but there's a saying "everything comes to an end" and he paid the price with no chance of parole...

The Beginning of the End

History repeats itself once again. The thought of it was stuck on my mind. Preventing it was a healthy choice but my stubborn mind let things flow as it should be--letting him the very idea of hurting me once again. As November approaches, there are judgments I can't barely get out of my head. Judgments that taking possession over me and  invade in it for a long period of time. Refraining from it was as hard as breaking your own rule. It will eventually lead me into something I only fear--losing you...

So my only escape from all this illusions is to cry for a moment, laugh for a while and shout out loud the reason of not having what was desired. I've realized that I should not mourn nor weep. For I've met someone worth to keep and discovered that  "true beauty will always be essential in its true face." Your feign identity will always reside in your weak soul and will eat you up 'til you lose control.  

Unexpectedly, I found myself concealed in my own sanctuary. Searching for a light at the end of the pathway, seeking for truth and catching happiness, asking for vengeance for the intolerable pain you've caused. Then results seed to too much grudges and resentment that lies underneath this cloak. 

Memories from the past just popping up

Entangled and attached to a melancholic past 

Now that the end has come

It's the perfect time to reflect upon

To decide what's right

And illegally out of bound

To leave you now

And follow my heart...→♥

Seven Pounds

What an interesting story of an act of kindness..A very unique masterpiece from a perspective of a mere human being who tried hard enough to touched the lives of the people he barely even knew..I consider this as a remarkable film that really captures my heart and left me with great values to ponder on..As I watched the film, I feel every pain and sorrow that the character portrays..It feels like I'm actually taking Will Smith's part..Especially in the last part wherein he gave his heart to Emily..My heart was rapidly beating at that moment and I can't hardly breathe and tears kept on fallin' on my cheeks..I was definitely moved..

This movie depicts something that will truly open our eyes to see the beauty of LIFE..Every situation has a different story to tell and each story communicates to us, for us to seek beyond the visions of our naked eye..In this film, each and everyone of us must realize now--to know our "purpose" in life and do what we ought to do..There's no room for mistakes and we only have one life to live so make the most of it..Do something good to others and treat yourself right..Be the best in everything and soar high..Never back down and continue to grow..Lastly, moved on and spend time wisely..Most of us neglect small little things in life and focus on the big ones but at the end of the day we found ourselves creeping back to our true self..Enjoy life!:D

IN BITTERNESS LIES

Jealousy is a sickness

It is built from within

The root is obsession

Leading to insanity blame

How terrible it is

Living with no peace

Just full of hatred

And a feeling of grief

Unfaithful you

Caused so much strain

Punishing this heart

In crucial pain

Darkness prevails 

In its deceiving face

How can I escape

From your intellectual claims

Only you is the cure

To set a man's soul free
An act of confession

Will satisfy my need

Just let me go

And let it be

This is my fate

We're not meant to be...

UNSPOKEN WORDS

Tongue tied I was when I'm with you

No words to utter 'coz I'm caught up in blue

Blank stare I can do when I'm facing you

There's no way I could ever talk to you

A hundred times I practice my speech

Yet it ended worse 'coz I can't speak

I try again to express myself to you

But you run away before I say go

I want you to feel

What my heart ought to steal

For the pain still goes on

Without you alone

I'm reckoned in despair

Feeling empty with no pair

Got nothing but words

Unspoken and cursed

Insensitive You

I hate it when you act like that. Treating me so kind but with a malicious intent deep inside. I always warned myself not to fall in your trap but here I am again falling apart. You are such a distraction in my simple life. You made my life so complicated and turn it upside down. I tried to distance myself to you but time draw us closer like magnets and glue. Now I'm confused every time I saw you. Should I say 'hello' and be nice to you or play blind as if I haven't seen you. Neither of the two. Well, I don't want to admit that I still love you 'cause the truth is I really don't. But now that you're making a move, I'm taking back all the mixed emotions I've kept and suffer the consequences of loving you once more. I actually don't get what you're up to. I'm not a psychic to know what's on your mind day and night. So puh-lease express yourself and tell me what's going on. Don't waste my time and spill out what your heart longs for 'cause I'll be waiting 'til I make you mine...

The Uninvited Weirdo

You came along like a lightning bolt striking the ground..Capturing thy hearts of my beloved ones..What a cheap excuse just to be near with them..With only one motive in mind, to steal my precious jewel..Are you desperate to have a boyfriend?..I guess you are and as far as I can see you never had a special someone..That's the reason why you're very eager enough to have one..Cry baby;) And you even tried to take over him without rethinking if you're crossing one's borders..Uh-oh bitch you're out of your league..Better turn around and go back to your jungle house..I pity you 'cause no matter what you do, everyone hates you and you will never be welcome enough in our world..Don't push any harder because you will see..I'll take you down the moment you lay your hands in my baby's body parts..

You're Like a Drug To Me..(I can't get you outta my head)

I can't stop thinkin' about you..I dunno why but my heart wants to feel you once more..There are times that I really wanna kiss you and tell you how much I've missed you yet I'm so caught up with all this bullshit stuff in my mind..It makes me crazy sometimes thinking we could go back to what we have before..What did we have back then that is worth the joy and pain to reconsider..I'm falling apart since I've chosen you but you are still the one I chose to love for the rest of my life..It may sound so weird but I'm willing to wait 'til I win your heart..I'm in a game where you is the prize and I will do my best just to get what I want and that is you babe..You are the one who's right for me and I'm d one for you..You'll see, I'll prove it to u..I deserve a second chance..I won't blow it this time..Just give me one and I'm out..

Singleness

This time I've decided to discover the new me..Being isolated with the idea of singleness..A year has passed and I'm still in a state of confusion..I've been trying to work on the things I need to improve yet I'm still caught up doing nonsense stuff..Instead of rebuilding the relationships I've destroyed and find more depth in my being,I never take a single step forward..Now,I have a vision in mind and I'm willing to do special things to those persons I've wronged..After submitting myself into pain,I've learned many lessons in the game of love..those lessons will serve as a reminder for me in every aspects of life that no matter how difficult the situation is there's still one person patiently hearing all our complaints and comfort us using HIS ways..Through Him I've finally realized how to love unselfishly with a pure heart..This time around,I will be more cautious with my actions and make discreet decisions..My biological clock is ticking and I need to begin now..This time will be the new story of my life..A fresh start for something really "HUGE"..A perfect way of serving God with no distractions and give to Him the praises that He deserves..The big question now is how do I begin with?..I don't know what to do..Can I keep my promise to myself?..Can I hold myself 'til that day arrive?..Am I able to resist the urge of temptation?..I KNOW I CAN!!!He's there to accompany me to the righteous path;D

Seven Signs of False Love

I really like this article..basahin nio po..makakarelate din kau..ampp..sa web ko lng yan nakuha habang naghahanap ako ng info. tungkol sa "love and relationship"..kasi naman bat un pa naging topic namin sa philo..ang masaklap pa nun ang partner ko ung ex ko..wheeww..kakailang tuloy..pero okie lng..di ko nga alam kung paano irerelate ang valid and inferential thinking regarding sa topic namin..pero nung nabasa ko toh nagkaroon ako ng idea..simple lng pala..isang tanong lang ang dapat naming masagot un ay kung UTAK o PUSO ba ang dapat gawing basehan kapag nagmamahal..sa article na toh sinasabi na mas dapat pairalin ang utak kaysa puso..pero karamihan sa atin puro puso ginagamit..naku isa na ako dun**,..juz kidding..i always use my brain noh..duh?!..I dont want to luk stupid juz bcoz of HIM..bat pa ko magtya2ga sa taong di naq mahal??..wat a waste of tym!!!..he's not my loss..madami pa jan na mas deserving ng pagmamahal ko..lolJ..parang lumalabas na ang bitter ako..ammpp..di ahh..tae kasing pag-ibig na yan..naimbento pa..aun tuloy madaming nagdurusa..nyahahaJ..well, nakarecover na ako..heehee:D..ket papaano,..cge hanggang dito na lng muna..i-scroll muna para mabasa mu na ung mga signs..gudlak!^_^

Seven Signs of False Love

O, pag-ibig, pag pumasok sa puso ninuman,

hahamakin ang lahat, masunod ka lamang.

-FRANCISCO BALAGTAS, mula sa Florante at Laura

THE HEART OF THE MATTER

Hindi na natin kayang bilangin ang mga libro, magazines at mga artikulo na naisulat tungkol sa pag-ibig. Kahit saan ka lumingon, laging may elemento ng pag-ibig. Hindi nagpapahinga ang Hallmark sa paggawa ng mga lovenotes and cards para sa lahat ng magsing-irog. Lahat ng mapapakinggan mo sa FM station ay puro may kinalaman sa pag-ibig. Hindi rin mauubos-ubos ang mga telenovela, Koreanovela, Tsinovela at iba’t ibang soap operas na tumatalakay sa iba’t ibang mukha ng romantic love. Bawat taon ay mayroong mga love teams na titilian ng mga kabataan. Hindi rin puwedeng maglaho mga pocketbooks na magpapakilig sa maraming nangangarap na magkaroon ng prince charming (sa mga girls) at Miss Universe ng buhay nila (sa mga boys). Indeed, love makes the world go round.

GUARD YOUR HEART

Sinabi ng Panginoon na kung nasaan daw ang ating pinakatatangi sa buhay, naroon din ang ating pag-ibig. Kung mahal na mahal mo ang isang bagay, doon nakatuon ang iyong puso. Dahil mahal na mahal ng mga basketbolista ang kanilang propesyon, wala silang ginagawa kung hindi ang magpraktis sa gymn nang ilang beses sa isang linggo. If we love something, we will surely invest time. Kung mahalaga sa atin ang ating pag-aaral, maglalaan tayo ng maraming panahon sa pag-aaral.

Out of the abundance of the heart our mouth speaks. Kung ano ang laman ng iyong puso, iyon din ang lalabas sa ating mga bibig--what we feel, we act and speak. Kung galit ka, siguradong pagalit ka rin magsalita at panay galit ang lalabas sa iyong pananalita. Pero kung puno ka ng pagmamahal, suguradong panay pag-ibig din ang mamumutawi sa iyong bibig.

May warning sa mga taong laging puso ang pinaiiral. The heart of man can have the tendency to be deceitful and wicked. Kaya kailangang lagi nating babantayan ang ating nararamdaman. Something can feel “right” but completely wrong. Ika nga, emotions and feelings have zero IQ. Ano ngayon ang solusyon sa problemang ito? We must keep your heart with all diligence. We need to check it always. Hindi totoo ang kantang, “kapag tumibok ang puso, wala ka nang magagawa kung hindi sundin ito…” The truth is we can manage our feelings.

If we want to control our hearts for the better, we must guard it with a mind transformed by the Word of God. Else, lagi tayong magkakamali. Yes, sa pamamagitan ng puso tayo umiibig ngunit iwawasto ng ating pag-ibig ng tamang kaalaman at karunungan. We must always renew our minds so that we can know the perfect will of God in our lives. Hindi tayo dapat nagpapadala sa mga likong kaisipan ng marami pagdating sa pag-ibig. Para sa iba, ok lang ang magpapalit-palit ng girlfriend o boyfriend na parang nagpapalit ka ang ng damit. Unti-unti na ring tanggap ang premarital sex. We should never follow the wrong and evil standards of this world. Baguhin ang isip at sundin ang kalooban ng Diyos.

SEVEN SIGNS OF FALSE LOVE

Paano mo madaling malalaman na peke ang isang pera? Ang sagot: kailangang alamin mo ang kalidad ng isang tunay na pera. May mga special marks ang mga totoong perang papel kung kaya hindi siya puwedeng gayahin ninuman. Kung magagaya man ito, sa itsura lamang. May bigat din ang totoong pera. Kung alam mo na mas magaan ang isang pera, magtanong ka na kung totoo nga ba talaga siya. Kahit sa unang tingin, akala mo pareho lang ang tunay at peke. Ganundin sa pag-ibig. Marami tayong inaakalang TL (True Love) ngunit PL (Pekeng Love) pala. Saan tayo magsisimula ng pagde-define ng tunay na pag-ibig? Saan pa, kung hindi sa Bibliya. The Bible declares that God is love. We know how to love because the one who created us is Love itself. Let us also define the character of love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (CEV) states:

Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.

We must also define infatuation. It is a “temporary passion: an intense but short-lived and irrational passion for somebody or something.” We must notice the words “temporary”, short-lived, intense and irrational. Kalimitang hindi nagtatagal ang isang infatuation o crush. Ngunit kahit na hindi ito nagtatagal matinding emosyon ang kasabay nito. Ganundin nagiging irrational ang nakakaramdam nito. Sa ibang salita, minsan hindi na nakapag-iisip nang tama. To further explain this term, I will tell you its seven major signs. Maraming kabataan ang hindi alam kung ano ang pagkakaiba ng tunay at pekeng pag-ibig. They often equate crush with love kaya nakapagbibitiw ng mga salitang hindi naman talaga dapat sinasabi, at nakagagawa ng mga bagay na hindi dapat ginagawa.

First Sign: The AXE Effect

Sikat na sikat ang mga commercials ng pabangong AXE sa maraming tao. Lagi nitong ipinapakita na nahuhumaling ang mga kababaihan sa mga lalaking gumagamit nito. Ang byline niya: It can turn nice girls naughty. Dahil sa bango ng AXE, nawawala sa sarili nilang bait ang mga kababaihang nakakaamoy nito at ayaw nang mahiwalay pa sa lalake. Nakatuon sila sa mala-gayumang pabango. Sa tunay na buhay, madalas na nakatuon sa pisikal na kaanyuan ang mga nakararamdam ng infatuation. Hindi lang sa amoy, kung hindi maging sa nakikita, at nararamdaman. Infatuation focuses on the physical traits. Nagustuhan dahil na-cute-an sa dimples sa noo, maputi ang balat, singkit, pearly white teeth ang ngipin at kung anu-ano pa. However, nagugustuhan ng mga infatuated ang isang tao dahil sa kaniyang PILING MGA KATANGIAN. They like the person because of certain qualities of that person. Sila ang madalas magsabi ng UY…AY. Ang unang bukambibig, UY ang GANDA NIYA….AY MAY BODY ODOR PALA! Sa mga girls naman: UY ang GUWAPO NIYA….AY MABAHO PALA ANG HININGA. Matapos makita ang kahinaan at masamang katangian, agad na nati-turn-off at nawawala ang paghangang nararamdaman.

Love does not look at physical appearance. May isang kahulugan ang pangungusap na “Love is Blind.” Bulag daw ang pag-ibig kasi kahit kahinaan ng taong iyong minamahal ay hindi mo nakikita. Kapag nagmahal ka nang tunay tatanggapin mo siya nang buong puso. No IFs and No BUTs. You just love unconditionally.

Second Sign: The Kisap Mata Complex

Madalas na hindi mo alam kung kailan nagsisimula at natatapos ang infatuation. May isa akong kabataan na tinanong kung ano ang dahilan ng break-up nila ng kaniyang boyfriend.Wala siyang maisagot sa akin. Sabi niya, hindi niya alam. Bigla na lang nawala. Nang tinanong ko siya kung kailan pa sila nagbreak-up, wala rin siyang maisagot. Basta ang sabi niya, wala na sila. Ganun lang kasimple, wala na. Nada. Tapos na. End of the story.

Infatuation starts and ends fast. The ending just happens. Bakit? Kasi nagbabago ang nararamdaman ng mga infatuated batay sa kondisyon ng kanilang gusto. Sa simula, napakatindi ng emosyon. Tatawirin ang isang libong kabundukan, mapasaya lang ang minamahal. Nagtatalunan nang husto ang mga hormones sa katawan at kayang ipagsigawan sa buong mundo na mahal na mahal niya ang isang tao. Matapos ang ilang araw o linggo, lubos na nakilala ang iniirog. Sinabi sa sarili: “Hindi na siya ang dating nagustuhan ko. Nagbago na siya”. Ang resulta: AYAWAN NA! AYAWAN NA! AYAWAN NA!

Parang mga batang naglalaro ng tagu-taguan ang mga infatuated lang. Kapag wala nang excitement, unti-unting mawawala sa paningin sa bawat isa. Ito ang dahilan kung bakit nalilito ang marami sa kanila kung tunay na pag-ibig ba o crush lamang ang kanilang nararamdaman. Sa mga nag-akalang tunay na pag-ibig ang kanilang nararamdaman,malaking pagsisi ang kanilang mararamdaman.

Third Sign: The”Crazy for You” Syndrome

Infatuation can make us disorganized, distracted and ineffective in many ways. Katulad ng isang baliw, minsan hindi ka nakapag-iisip nang tama. Lahat ng iyong tingnan, feeling mo naroon siya. Tumingin ka sa langit, mukha niya ang iyong nakikita. Kumain ka sa canteen ng inyong eskwelahan, siya pa rin ang nakikita mo sa iyong pinggan. Kahit sa pagtulog, sinisigaw mo ang kaniyang pangalan. Hanggang sa kalye, mukha niya ang naaninag mo sa billboards at posters. Ito ang tinatawag nating crazy for you syndrome. In short, isang hindi magandang kabaliwan ng emosyon. Ang isang infatuated ay kalimitang wala sa maayos na pag-iisip. Hindi niya iniintindi ang mga susunod na mangyayari. Ang mahalaga laging mapasaya ang kaniyang mahal at lagi siyang masaya. The problem with this syndrome is that you are not the real you. You might lose your head and do things you would not otherwise think of doing.

True love is is not rude and unreasonable (as far as our attitudes are concerned). Hindi rin ito natutuwa sa gawang masama, It does not condone wrong actions. Kapag mahal mo ang isang tao, gusto mong mapabuti ang relasyon at ang mahal mo sa buhay. Ito ang karakter ng Diyos. He is LOVE but He is not ALL-LOVING. Hindi siya natutuwa kapag napapasama o nagpapakita ng kasamaan ang Kaniyang mga mahal. This is because His love is pure and without blemish. Hindi siya kailanman nalulugod sa mga relasyong masama ang ibinubungang resulta.

Fourth Sign: Just the Two of Us Feeling

Umiikot ang mundo ng mga infatuated sa isang tao lang—ang kaniyang kinababaliwang partner. Walang makapipigil sa kanilang dalawa na magsama. Kahit saan magpunta, hindi puwedeng hindi magkasama---sa mall, sa park, sa pagbili ng suka, sa pagtetext, sa kung ano-ano pa. Infatuated persons tend to lose interest in things that used to excite them Madalas, hindi na napapansin at nabibigyan ng sapat na atensyon ang mga mahal sa buhay at mga tao sa kanilang paligid. Kung dati-rati’y laging present sa mga family affairs, ngayon kailangan pang i-check ang schedule sa date ng boyfriend/girlfriend. Nakalimutan din na samahan ang mga dating kaibigan. Kung kaya, feeling nila, they are left out and ignored. Madalas, hindi aprubado ng mga miyembro ng pamilya at mga kaibigan ang relasyon. May mga kaso pa nga na ayaw ng magkapareha ang mga kaibigan ng isa’t isa. Maraming bagay na makakalimutan mong gawin kapag naging exclusive ang relayson mo sa isang tao. Hindi maiiwasan na malalayo ka o maapektuhan ang pagsama sa mga kabarkadang laging kasama sa gimik at mga lakad. Dahil may beloved ka na. Kung mayroon mang mas paglalaanan ng panahon, hindi na iyong mga dati mong kaibigan kung hindi ang iyo nang significant other.

Ano epekto sa isang kabataan kapag umiikot na lamang ang kaniyang buhay sa isang tao? Isa sa mga epekto nito ay ang pagkawala ng FOCUS sa kung ano ang mas mahalaga at mas kailangan. Kapag masyadong ibinuhos ang emosyon sa isang relasyon, siguradong makakaladkad din ang ibang bahagi ng buhay. Kapag nag-away ang magka-partner, apektado ang pag-aaral, pagkain at relasyon sa pamilya. Kapag masyado namang natuon sa BF o GF ang panahon, maari ding lumayo ang ilang kaibigan. Kapag may family affair.

Fifth Sign: The Need You Here Sickness

Kung hindi tunay na pag-ibig ang iyong nararamdaman, madali siyang mawawala kapag pinag-usapan na ang distanya at layo ng bawat isa. Sabi nga ng isang tula, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Dahil nakatuon sa pisikal na kaanyuan ang pagtingin ng isang tao, nawawala ang kaniyang nararamdaman, kapag hindi na niya ito nakikita, nahahawakan o nakakausap. It is very hard to sustain the relationship when a thousand miles separate the two. Kung kaya, laging kailangan ng face-to-face contact. Nawawalan ng interes sa isa’t isa ang mga infatuated kapag nahiwalay sa matagal na panahon. It dies with distance.

Love is patient. It can withstand the test of time. Kung tunay ang pag-ibig ang iyong nararamdaman, kahit ilang milya pa ang layo ninyo sa isa’t isa, the feelings will stay. Although time can make the heart grow fonder, hindi ito isyu sa mga tunay na umiibig. Kahit ilang taon pa kayo hindi nagkita, kung talagang tunay ang inyong pagmamahal, pag-iisahin kayo ng pag-ibig na iyon sa bandang huli.

Sixth Sign: “Kung Ayaw Mo, Huwag Mo” Problem

Kapag hindi tunay ang pag-ibig na nararamdaman, madaling nasisira ang relasyon ng simpleng away at tampuhan. Quarrels will kill the relationship, and they tend to become more frequent and more severe. Kalimitang hindi nagkakasundo sa mga maliliit na bagay. Minsan nakakapagbitiw na ng masasakit na salita. There will come a point that you will hurt each other more. You may even do it on purpose. Pagkatapos ng away, you kiss and make up. Pero sa halip na mapatibay ang relasyon, unti-unting nawawala ang interes sa isa’t isa. True love is not easily angered and forgiving. Hindi magagalitin ang pag-ibig. Kung lagi kayong nag-aaway, ipinapakita lamang nito na may problema ang relasyon. Isa sa mga dahilan ng mga away na ito ay ang pagiging self-centered ng isa sa o parehong magkarelasyon. Wala kasing nagbibigay. Laging gustong siya ang masusunod.

If you love, you will understand the feelings of your partner. You will understand him/her. Kahit na siya ang mali, you will find solution na maayos ang problema. Infatuated people often fight because the relationship is founded on superficial reasons, often based on the physical appearance of the person. Madalas sa mga pumapasok sa relasyon ay hindi muna nagkakilala nang matagal upang makilala ang isa’t isa. Kaya sa panahon na mag-on doon pa lamang nakikilala ang isa’t isa. Nabibigla tuloy sa kanilang mga nadidiskubre.

Seventh Sign: Akin Ka Lang Attitude

Masyadong possessive ang mga infatuated. Ayaw na ayaw na mawawala kasi sa kanila ang kanilang partner. Jealousy is more frequent and more severe. When you're jealous you want to keep him or her wholly to yourself. Natatakot ka kasi na mabaling ang atensyon ng iyong pinakamamahal sa iba at mawala ang pagtingin sa iyo. Hindi ka handang pakawalan ang isang tao dahil nakatuon ka sa iyong kaligayahan. Parang sinasabi mo sa iyong ka-partner: “Gusto kong lumigaya ka, pero kailangan munang ako ang lumigaya. My happiness comes first, not yours.”

True love always trusts and not jealous. It is not self-seeking. Ang pag-ibig na kalimitang nararamdaman ng mga kabataan ay self-centered. Nagseselos kapag hindi na napapansin ng minamahal. Ang gusto sa kaniya lang nakatuon ang panahon at pagmamahal ng kaniyang karelasyon. Kapag mayroon nang pinagpakitaan ng pagmamahal maliban sa sarili, agad na nagsisimula ng away.

INFATUATION MAY GROW INTO LOVE

May good news ako sa mga super infatuated. Ang inyong nararamdaman ay maaring maging true love. Ito ay kung tama ang panahon at tama ang inyong puso. You don't have to rush the relationship. Infatuation can and sometimes does develop into real love. Assume a wait-and-see attitude. Kung hindi magtagal, fine. Kung magtagal naman, well and good. Ganunpaman, I don’t think it is necessary that a young person should engage in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship just to test whether his/her infatuation will last. Kalimitang nagkakaproblema tuwing masyadong sineseryoso ang infatuation. Tanggalin ang attitude na parang hindi na iibig pang muli at ang karelasyon na ang pinakahuling taong pakamamahalin. Never be a victim of several pitfalls we have identified.